Today I have spent wallowing in the judgment of others. I have held them higher than I hold my own judgment and I could not find the light.

Judgment is an amazing thing. Despite the belief in a Higher Power (if that is what you hold), there is always a place for judgment. We believe the Higher Power holds the final say and yet, we on Earth, make the judgment.

Is it worse that we believe we can judge or is it worse that we hold others that judge us above all others? We fear their criticism. Even in our strongest hours or through our greatest words, we still wonder what the person nearest to us thinks of us. I have heard many profess against this. Yet, I have watched them check their p’s and q’s, however discreetly, and I know they look for acceptance.

I do not believe that there is anyone free from this.  I know what I hear is often betrayed by what I see.  People will tell me, in all defiance, that they do not care about the judgments people make on them.  They will tell me that they are free from judgment on Earth and that they only care what their Higher Power makes.  Unfortunately, what they say and what they show are often two different things.  It also goes that, though they believe that their Higher Power can make judgment upon them, they will freely make judgment on another.

I would love to be free of this worry.  I would love not to care what another says or thinks or does. In my weakest moments I realize, I am not immune to this. I will continue to worry and wonder.  Perhaps this is what holds us in check.  If we know that another will judge us, will we make better choices?  Do we dress better, perform better, pay more attention to our own p’s and q’s because we know there is someone on Earth watching us and making judgment of our choices?

Another way the judgment issue is avoided is by stating that you are only stating your opinion or that you do not care about another’s opinion.  The problem with this, is that they are one in the same.  Maybe, not on all occasions, but in enough of them.   This is why no person is free of this, one way or another, you experience judgment of another or you are active in judging of another.  It is human nature.  Like anything, moderation is the key.  Too much either way will harm you.

Everyone has a story…not an excuse, just a story.  Keep that in mind while you are passing by.